Cyber Sex Part Two: PHONE SEX

 

YOU KNOW WHEN THAT HOTLINE BLING

 

So, you’ve nailed the art of text sex. You have mastered the dirty message and conquered the slutty selfie. Your erotic dialogue is impeccable and you can seduce your virtual lover at the drop of a hat. You can write a message and climax simultaneously, all while holding an iPhone in one hand and a vibrator in the other.

 

But text sex has been played out and you want to advance things. After all, you don’t have time to be sending relentless text exchanges back and forward. You prefer vocalising, rather than writing, your sexual fantasies anyway.

 

So, what’s next?  GF, it’s phone sex time.

 

Our long-distance lovers will be very accustomed to phone sex. However, if you have been hurdled into isolation without pre-warning, you may not have had much experience with this particular sexual communication.

 

If you need some help perfecting your sexy talk, don’t worry. I have compiled my favourite dos and don’ts (complete with helpful blockbuster examples) so that you can get your rocks off over the phone in the most fun, flirty, or filthy way you like.  

 

 

 

Invent a persona by playing with different accents and adopting language that you wouldn’t ordinarily use. Create backstory for your role. You want to be a sexy Russian gymnast spy with a proclivity for getting freaky in helicopter cockpits? Fabulous. Let your lover know who you are, what you want, and how you want it.

 

DO use props to set the mood.

Just because you’re not physically with your partner, doesn’t mean that you can’t introduce physical elements into phone sex! Props are a great way to get you and your lover in the mood and will add another dimension to your voice through the receiver.

 

If you don’t have pleasure props on hand, not to worry. Take a leaf out of Anne’s book and just pretend. Use whatever you can get your hands on to make suggestive sounds. For example, slap a magazine on the kitchen counter to create the fantasy that you are spanking your partner with a paddle.

 

If you’re feeling game, use a toy (such as a vibrator) during the call. The sound of the vibrations as you describe what you’re doing to yourself will drive you both wild!

 

DON’T have phone sex any place.

Though there may be an element of risk or thrill, I would probably say don’t have phone sex in your open plan office while your boyfriend is in the building.

 

Generally, there is a time and a place. The more comfortable you are, the better it will be. Set aside time where you will be uninterrupted. Find a relaxing, clean space where you can get your rocks off without worrying about being rushed or walked in on. 

 

  

 

DO listen to your partner and be open to their ideas.

This is vital if you are going to stand a chance at phone sex.

 

Make sure that your partner knows that they can be completely open with you. Assure them that they are free to explore their fantasies in a non-judgemental space. Listen to what they want and how they want it. After all, you will be relying solely on verbal communication to get each other off, so it is important that you actively listen to what the other person is saying.

 

 

DON’T skip the detail.

As we can see from Drew and Justin, omitting to set the scene can be catastrophic to a telephone romp and may put a halt on things before they even get started.

 

Make sure you set out the basics by letting your partner know where you are, what you are wearing, and what you intend to do. Not only will describing the scene prevent awkward miscommunication, the more specific you are in portraying a sexual narrative, the more aroused you and your partner will become.

 

DO surprise your partner.

 

Who doesn’t like feeling desired? Try surprising your partner by initiating phone sex the next time you are on the line. Knowing that you instigated the sesh can be enough to have your lover chomping at the bit.

 

Start slow to make sure you partner is comfortable engaging in dirty talk before getting into the nitty gritty. If that is too daunting, send a naughty text to feel out their mood and take it from there.

  

DON’T rush it.

 

Just like having text sex, phone sex is all about the build-up. Tease your partner by taking things slowly. Build the pressure until you both can’t hold it in any longer.  

 

And if you do happen to climax prematurely, be a George and make sure you partner gets their rocks off too.

 

GOOD GIRL RHI RHI


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