Let's get down to Mazzing...
So, you’ve been hearing us bang on about masturbating… our references to floating on clouds in heaven, accidental orgasms and five star toy reviews but you still don’t see what all the fuss is about? If this is relatable, the next one is for you!
Maybe you’ve tried to give it a go, but just felt awkward, ashamed or couldn't get yourself in the right headspace? Masturbating is equal parts mental as it is physical. For me (Ruby), masturbating is something that is ritualistic. Getting comfortable, scrolling XNXX to find just the right video, flicking to that favorite page of erotica, choosing my toy depending on how i'm feeling and making sure my phone is on ‘do not disturb’ so I don’t get any texts from Mum are all a part of my ritual. If you haven't yet discovered your ritual, let's have a chat!
First things first…
It's important to not have any expectations when you start. Even for the most experienced masturbators, the pressure to orgasm is the killer of cumming. Getting comfortable and relaxed is KEY to getting to know your body. Make sure you find somewhere you feel safe and won't be disrupted - your bed is always a good place to start.
Getting in the mood is your next step. How you choose to do this is personal. I think self-massage is amazing. Grab the massage oil, start at your neck and work your way down. Don't underestimate the power of feeling yourself up - the chest area is sensitive and nipples are full of nerve endings! If you are a porn lover or reader of erotica, now would be the moment to start scrolling or reading. Slowly touching yourself whilst you do this can be just as enjoyable as experiencing an orgasm!
You're horny, now what?
Take your time, don't rush. Find what works and what doesn't. For vagina owners, it is only a very small percentage who cum from penetration alone. Clit stimulation is where it’s at for most. The desired speed and pressure applied is personal and unique to each person. Find your rhythm, what feels good and what doesn't. Some people find pleasure and reach climax by grinding a pillow, some like gentle finger stimulation. Unfortunately I can't tell you exactly what will get you off, but experimenting with different sensations will help you find your vibe!
To climax or not to climax …
I believe in enjoying the ride. As the great Aaliyah once said “if at first you don't succeed, you can dust yourself off and try again” don't be discouraged if you find it difficult to cum. This is actually common. If you experience an orgasm, congrats! If you don't, keep at it. It's complicated, but I believe in you! Just remember it's all about the journey, it's not always about the destination. Stay sexy, Ruby Woo x
